In a world where paper towels are a coveted household item, everyone hates their jobs, and our desires are seen as delusions - I have got one question; are you good?
Recently, I’ve entered what I call my “isolation era”. Basically, 90% of what I’m focusing on is centred around ME. This still includes business deals with clients, onboarding staff, pitching, collaborating etc - but they all have one common goal; contributing to the foundation of my success.
Baby, this isn’t my first rodeo, I am the self-isolation queen. In the past, I was almost militant, which created discipline, yes.. but I didn’t even wanna be around myself lol (what a vibe kill). This time, I’ve given myself the permission to feel okay about saying “no”, centering my own needs, and creating joy to complement the not-so-glamorous stuff. The quiet time has uprooted emotions and a little internal chaos, but resulted in immense clarity!
It’s all in the reflection: breaking down what doesn’t work and rebuilding with intention. How often are you taking time to renovate and re-invent the areas of your life that just aren’t cutting it? The cycle of complacency can be such a comfy place to live (trust me, I know), but at this point, I’d rather chew on a jean jacket.
Vibes are at an all-time low and happiness is a hot commodity. I really want to place the power back into our own hands with a little exercise:
List 5 things that are impacting your mood negatively, let’s call these your “unhappy triggers” (eg. cost of living, employment related issues, finances, body goals, relationships etc)
Take some time to get clear on each of your unhappy triggers: think about and explore your fears around each. Then, consider just how good it can get - write a sentence or two about what the “good” looks and feels like.
Solution-storming: using the barometer at the very bottom (shark, flow, and freeze mentality), pick a style for each unhappy trigger and brainstorm some actionable tasks based on where your current mentality is. Shark is heavy action, Flow is getting creative with the tools you already have, Freeze is self-preservation/no hard action just yet.
Action Plan! We need specifics, even if it’s just 1-2 things. The key is to choose DOABLE actions/non-actions/save-for-later actions, put a timeline on it and set reminders in your phone leading up to those dates. You should be checking in with this exercise weekly and adjusting as needed.
Remember, planning is the easy part, action and movement are what’s going to create a difference or at the very least get the ball rolling!
See below for your action style:
Shark Mentality - You are aware that it’s a dog-eat-dog world, and you’re willing to participate. Your vibe says, “coach, put me in the game”. You’re ready to risk it all to create your own version of happiness.
Flow Mentality- You are the type of person who will make adjustments in order to adapt to change as best as you can; you’re in survival mode. Your vibe says, “I’m not happy to be here, but I wanna be happy while I’m here”.
Freeze Mentality- You do not wish to participate in the game at all (you didn’t even bring your sneakers), you’re longing for peace of mind, you may be overly exhausted and not know where to begin. Your vibe says, “I just wanna be okay, but I don’t know how”.
Let me know how it goes, and keep on checking in with yourself using these three words:
Are
You
Good?
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